How to BE HAPPY.

Assalamulaikum w. b. t, hello peeps!



HAPPY.

A single word that not all of  us can experience every day. You are sad, stressed, feeling unloved, and all those other negative feelings. Don't be afraid to admit it. I know how it feels getting all those thought of being alone, unloved, feeling shoved to the side, feeling left out. Everyone has gone through the moment where we feel like being alive is useless. Trust me. You are not the only one feeling that way.



Every one of us has been tested with different types of test. Some are test with bad brains (though you can say they are lazy, dont wanna study, but there are some people who studies a lot but still cant achieve what they want to achieve), some are test with bad parents, bad siblings, bad friends, some are test with break ups/heartbreaks. Not some, I guess nowadays, everyone of us has gone through that time where we are betrayed or left by someone that we love the most.


And theres no longer happiness left after a heartbreak. Because, that person is our everything. Someone that we expect to be with our whole life. I know, its sad. I know, it makes us cry. I know, heartbreaks is painful. But you have to know that it doesnt last long. After 3 months or so, you'll get through it. I know, its easy for people to say "move on". But you must know that you, yourself, have to be strong while going through the first period of break ups. Stay strong and dont let the devils speak.


These are a few how to's that I use when I am feeling a bit unhappy.

1. Find the reason WHY you are feeling unhappy.
    In this step, you must know EXACTLY why you are feeling that way. What is the main root of unhappiness that you felt. What makes you feel that way. You must know you reason.

2. Think critically.
    Is the reason of being unhappy is something that cannot be solved? Is it so big that you can't be happy? Does it destroys your life? Think deeply, why must you be mad over that reason. Is it worth it to be mad about? Is the reason you're being sad is something that is worth to be thinking about?

3. Take a deep breath and CRY.
     If the reason that makes you unhappy is making you cry, cry all you want. Just cry. Let it go. Don't let the sadness fill your heart. Just cry all you want. If you are having a heartbreak and you can't believe what is happening, keep reading what he texted you. Read it all and let go all of those tears and hurt that you feel in you heart.
     If the reason that makes you unhappy is making you mad, take a very deep breath. Count to 10 and let it go slowly. Repeat this process until you feel like breaking down. ---as in cry. Or calming down a bit.

4. Be healthy.
    In this step, for those who are heartbroken and those who are stressing out, you should get out and talk a walk or jog a bit. If you are an indoor type of person and don' wanna go out, do something in your house that can make you exercise. Like going up and down the stairs, spring cleaning your house even it is not the time for cleaning, redecorating you room and so on. Do something that can make you tired. That can make you forget about the things that makes you unhappy.

5. Know your value.
    This is something that not everyone knows. You must know your worth. You are valuable. Much valuable than a diamond. If the reason you're being sad is because of someone, you must know that the "someone" who hurts you, doesnt have the rights to hurt you. You value more than what he/she done to you. You must not fall down. If he/she cant see your value, why are you being sad over it? Why are you being unhappy because of someone that doesnt appreciates you? Who doesnt value you? What is his/her rights to make you feel unhappy?

6. Think about your happy and improved self.
    More like making a fantasy of what you want yourself to be. The much more happier and much more improved you. Vision that. Vision the "you" that he/she doesnt value. Vision their lost. Vision you that are more spiritual and more energized. 

7. Fantasized someone who makes you happy.
    At this point, you vision someone who fits you perfectly. Who accepts you for who you are. Who loves you the way you love them. Who give their all to have you. Vision about that prince charming. Its not wrong to be visioning this. This is something that will make you to look forward to your life ahead of you, and not looking back hoping the one that you love to come back.

8. Know that everything happens for a reason.
    You must always know that things happens for a reason. A big reason. It might hurt you badly know, but you will never now why it is that way until you reach the future. One thing that I love to do to make sure I'm not so caught up in sadness is writing down everything that I feel at that time. After a few month, I read back everything. I become more thankful that those stuff happens to me. Things happens for a reason that you never know why. Always think about something that can possibly make you happier in the future.

9. Pray.
    No matter what religion you are in, praying is something that can soothes our mind. It can calm our mind a bit. If you are not someone who prays, start praying. It can make your life a bit better than before.

10. Talk to someone.
    You must always talk to someone about your feelings/your problems in order to reduce the burden that you are feeling. Find someone who can listen to everything that you say without judging you. Someone that you know you can trust with all the secrets you're about to tell them. Someone that you know wont talk at your back.


So thats all the steps that I can think of on how to be happy. I hope it can help you bit. ;)


Oh! And don't forget to keep smiling no matter how hard you day is. Smiling can help you to be much more positive. Keep smiling until you are used to it. Keep smiling until it makes you to choose to be happy. 


Last but not least, love yourself, cherish yourself and always know your worth! You are unique, you are one in a million. What rights do a person has to hurt you when you value more than what they've done to you? Always be happy and think positive! 

Thanks for reading. Bye!

Simple update.

Assalamualaikum w.b.t, hai! :D
Hai online diaryyyyyyy! Lulz.


   Semangat menulis blog baru hari ni sebaaaaabbbbb hehehehe, ayah belikan laptop baru. Alhamdulillah. Padahal saya tidak expect pun ayah untuk belikan laptop baru. Saya sudah tanam niat untuk bersabar, pasrah, redha & menguatkan diri untuk menggunakan computer rumah sebagai tempat untuk buat assignent untuk next sem atau guna laptop adik sementara dia masih di rumah. Seriously, I really didn't ask my dad for a new laptop. Ada la mengharap sikit, but I didn't ask for any sebab bulan ni saya akan banyak minta duit untuk bayar yuran (x dapat PTPTN sebab malas urus. Pfft), bayar dinner finance, beli buku etc. Fuhh. And sem ni insya Allah, akan ada lawatan ke Singapore. So I should berjimat. Huhuhuh. But I cant :'(


Err. Apa lagi yerrr. Oh, beberapa hari lepas, saya dan kawan bisnes saya (@houseofchikin) merangkap bestfriend dunia akhirat, insya Allah, buka booth kecil di Suria Sabah. Alhamdulillah, walaupun tidak ramai orang datang, tapi kami dapat cover kos buka booth tu. Ada la untung dalam 3 angka. Haha. And insya Allah lagi, 19hb-20hb Sept, Suria akan buat booth lagi. So kami join lagi booth tu. Harap-harap masa tu nanti ramai la orang datang. Bukan macam booth pertama kami ni. Huhuhu. Tidak ramai orang shopping/jalan-jalan sebab banyak roadblock di KK. Hmm. You guys know why~ (CLEAN) 


   Btw, malam ni sebenarnya saya mau tukar warna blog ni. Tapiiii, mampu tukar background ja. Mau completely ubah semua tapi macam malas. Mau synchronized kan warna blog ni balik tapi saya lupa apa nama border tepi ni. Sobs sobs.


   Anyhow, today I am really blessed. Alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah, thank you Allah. Walaupun harga laptop ni tidak la semahal mana, tapi saya bersyukur dapat laptop baru setelah laptop saya rosak. Alhamdulillah. Mau nangis terharu sebab ayah belikan laptop pun ada. Lol. Saya tiada berbakti apa sangat pun untuk mama & ayah sampai dorang bersetuju belikan saya laptop. Bukan murah harga laptop. Semua 'laptop sekarang RM800+++. Bukan senang mau cari duit sampai seribu. Ya Allah. Terharu betul :'( sebab laptop yang dulu saya beli guna duit hasil daripada jual kereta(masa menang kereta dulu), then kakak & adik, dorang beli laptop guna duit PT. So bila laptop saya rosak, saya tidak mengharap sangat ayah belikan laptop sebab saya tau bukan keperluan yang sangat sangat penting. Lagipun antara kami tiga adik beradik yang sudah masuk U ni, saya ja sorang yang langsung tiada berhutang dengan PTPTN & saya juga yang ada kereta (Ini pun hasil daripada menang kereta dulu). But still, antara kami tiga adik beradik, no matter how much saya selalu stress kecewa segala, still Allah memberikan saya banyak nikmat lain. Ibu bapa penyayang, adik beradik yang baik, kawan yang alhamdulillah, baik dan boleh dipercayai. I am really blessed with my life. 


   Though I know, other people ada benda yang lag hebat. Tapi kenapa kita mau tengok orang lain? Kenapa kita tidak membandingkan diri kita dengan orang yang lagi kurang mampu dari kita? Bukan mau merendahkan orang lain, tapi untuk kita rasa bersyukur dengan nikmat yang kita ada. sebab bukan semua orang dapat apa yang kita dapat. Lain orang, lain nikmat yang Allah kurniakan. Walau macamanapun, kita kena sentiasa bersyukur.


Alhamdulillah.


   Saya masih tidak percaya saya dapat laptop ni. Masih rasa terharu mau nangis :'( 
InsyaAllah, mum, dad..I'll get a nice job and repay everything that you've done for me for the rest of my life. Insya Allah, I'll take care of you guys until the end of my life. I'll make sure to find someone that loves you and treat both of you just like their own parents. I'll try my best to be the best daughter. Insya Allah. Jasa mama & ayah, memang tidak dapat dibayar dengan wang ringgit. Tapi saya akan pastikan diri saya sentiasa mencintai mama & ayah dan saya akan pastikan future husband saya seorang yang menyayangi mama & ayah seperti ibu bapa dia sendiri juga. I'll make sure that. Sebab lepas kahwin, isteri kena dengar cakap suami. Bila suami larang keluar rumah, isteri kena ikut. Tapi saya akan pastikan saya jumpa suami yang akan sentiasa mengingatkan saya pasal mama & ayah. Yang menjaga mama & ayah macam ibu bapa dia sendiri. Yang sayang mama & ayah macam saya sayang mama & ayah. Insya Allah. :)


   Semua janji di atas tu bukan sebab laptop ja. Haha. I've been thinking about that thing a lot nowadays. Entah la, makin berumur macam rasa sayang dengan ibu bapa ni makin bertambah. Makin terasa mau sayang dorang tiap hari. Luar biasa rasa sayang ni. Macam mau peluk mama dengan ayah tiap hari tapi malu. Hehehe. Setiap kali peluk mesti cover dengan panggil Syuhada sekali untuk peluk. Padahal sebenarnya saya memang mau sangat peluk dorang. Becuz I know, bila saya kahwin nanti, saya tidak lagi tinggal dengan dorang. I'll live far away from them. So I must cherish my time with them now. Walaupun kadang-kadang ayah rasa saya tidak menghargai masa dengan dorang. Mungkin ada betulnya, mungkin tanpa sedar saya mengendahkan dorang. Tapi rasa sayang dengan dorang tidak pernah berkurang sedikit pun. Entah la kenapa, tapi saya terasa macam one day, saya akan tinggal jauh dari dorang. Setiap kali tengok muka ayah dengan mama, mesti rasa sedih. Dorang makin tua, makin nampak rambut putih. Ayah yang dulu hensem dengan rambut hitam, sekarang makin nampak uban-uban tua. Sedih tau :'( Mama pun, biarpun sekarang nampak muda macam kakak ja, tapi still, tenaga mama tidak sekuat muda-muda dulu. I know one day, I'll be leaving them... or they'll be leaving me. So no matter how, I must show my love towards them everyday so I wont regret a thing! Huhu. Emosi pula malam-malam.


We never know what we have until its gone.
I don't want to be the person who regrets for not doing what I was supposed to be doing while I have them. The feeling of regretting is realllllllly painful. I dont want to go through that. Cukuplah rasa menyesal sekali---masa kakak kahwin hari tu. Rasa menyesal tu sangat sakit. Thats why peepsss---



Sekian. :)